HayleyxAnn

mjh3071 · Sun Apr 09, 2006 9:02 pm heeeelp

Hey guys,

Hope u dont mind me sharing my worries, but I feel as if I'm being emotionally 'used' by people and its hurting me.

You see, whenever I start talking to a girl and find she's single and I'm interested I usually wait a few weeks before starting to get really serious into talking about things. As soon as I start showing signs that I like them tho they always say "I'm happy single tbh at the mo". Thats fine by me. It only hurts when literally two weeks later they announce they have a new bf :shock:

Its as if nobody cares about me and they're using me as bait before finding someone else. Its as if anyone else is better for them than me. Its really starting to eat into me now and I dont know how much more I can take before I do something stupid :cry:

Heather · Sun Apr 09, 2006 9:59 pm

awww mark, everything will be Ok.. i mean girls are girls.. some ppl likes other ppl and sometimes we have to face it!
we all go through ppl not likeing you back!
but im sure you'll find a new girl you will like and enjoy being with !

mjh3071 · Sun Apr 09, 2006 10:05 pm

Its as tho NOBODY likes me back tho :(

Its happened three times now, and its becoming insulting. Its as if any other guy is good enough but I'm not :cry:

Its obvious I'm just not meant to be happy at all.

EssexLad · Mon Apr 10, 2006 1:00 pm

you cant force people to like you.....

there are people out there for everyone...

some people say the looking is fun.. some say it isnt.

just cause you like a girl .. doesnt neccessarily mean they have to like you.

ok they are pretty lame excuses... and every guy has heard them.

i think you need to look at yourself and find a pattern emerging... youve done this kind of thing on several forums... and frankly you need to stop singing the same tune..

im no looker... and not particularly lucky in love... but i get on with life... if a girl doesnt like you you have to accept it.

but as i have seen from you .. you put girls in very awkward positions and it is unfair.

mjh3071 · Mon Apr 10, 2006 7:03 pm

I'm just fed up with being messed about, people are playing with my emotions and I dont take kindly to it. If people realised what a nervous and depressed person they have made me maybe they will stop (or maybe not, after all I am the person everyone wants to pick on and it seems I'm only on earth as a human punchbag).

I've got to accept the truth, I'll never be happy becuase nobody will want me, all simply because I'm not the type of person anybody wants. I know the best place to be....where I can rest without any hassle.....all I have to do is work out how to get there.

EssexLad · Mon Apr 10, 2006 8:35 pm

how do you think the girls feel when you post things like this...

the ones that have supposedly made you feel like this will feel guilty...

and what your after sympathy from the others???

YOU CANT FORCE SOMEONE TO LIKE YOU...

ok its ok to be upset... but no point getting depressed...

i honestly believe theres a soul mate for everyone. :D

HayleyxAnn · Mon Apr 10, 2006 8:45 pm

I agree with EL

I know other people telling you doesn't offer comfort sometimes but you won't be unhappy and alone for the rest of your life I can tell you that!

If you're constantly down then theres problems within yourself that need sorting out and love won't solve them all!

I don't know you that well but you don't sound like you have a lot of confidence so maybe try to deal with that?

It's not always looks girls are attracted to! It's confidence, humour and general niceness which I believe you can possess if you try hard enough and not get so down and believe you're not worthy of anyone xxx

mjh3071 · Mon Apr 10, 2006 10:03 pm

I actually cried myself to sleep last nite, and it feels like I'll be doing it again tonight. I dont know quite how long I can go on like this. I've never felt so bad in my life.

Terry · Tue Apr 11, 2006 11:13 am

Tis pathetic, seriously mark no girl is worth crying over (unless its hay ;) )

Maybe you is approaching wrong type nod

EssexLad · Tue Apr 11, 2006 11:14 am

listen mark....

talk like that is not good...

will fall into a steep slope... witnessed a good friend of mine go the same way...

and the way your acting.. is ridiculous ... way out of porportion to the circumstances... so i think you should take a long hard look at yourself and think is it fair to put yourself through this... the circumstances my friend had ... were no wonder he did what he did... but you ... acting out of porportion.

why dont you grow up ... act your age... you sound like your 65 and gonna die without having a girlfriend... at this age... you should be living life to the full... having fun.. flirting and having fun with the other sex.

its not the end of the world... as far as i remember your 17/18 thats a great age... go out clubbing, pictures with friends... theres a whole world out there... no need to bring serious relationships into it.

but most of all cheer up .. .not gonna find a girl like this are ya?

mjh3071 · Tue Apr 11, 2006 11:38 am

I'm not crying cos of that, its other things I am crying because of.

I dont know how much more insults, accusations and messing about I can take.

EssexLad · Tue Apr 11, 2006 11:46 am

it might be difficult but maybe you need to toughen up...

i used to be sensitive... but went through a tough stage... i am still a sensitive person but it takes a lot more to hurt me these days.

with the insults and accusations.. maybe you should try and reason with the people that are doing it.

personally i think you let too much of your personal life come out into the internet... and need to spend your time meeting friends and real people.

another thing some may see as a good thing and some may see it as a bad thing... you seem to let ya guard down way to early ... you seem to get the impression a girl may fancy you when shes being friendly ...

it might be difficult but you do have to accept that.

Mark · Tue Apr 11, 2006 4:10 pm

I know the feeling all too well Mark (heh, 2 marks both with the same problem). i either like people who are taken or people who'll never ever like me in a billion years. Me and my ex split up last august and i've kinda been licking my wounds ever since so it's not till recently i've been looking for someone else but i have the exact same problem as you. They're all not interested in seeing anyone (when that anyone is ME) but they'll happily see someone else, it's just somethin you learn to live with. Eventually you find someone you like who isn't insane to let you slide :P
All i can say is keep your head held high and don't let the evil beings known as "women" get to you (present company excluded :D) you never know what/who is just round the corner. :D
the doctor has spoken, now go to the nurse for your prescription :D :D :D (i picked a sexy one, Nurse Hayley ) ;)

sarah M · Tue Apr 11, 2006 8:51 pm

mjh3071 wrote: I actually cried myself to sleep last nite, and it feels like I'll be doing it again tonight. I dont know quite how long I can go on like this. I've never felt so bad in my life.

awwww jus read this ... u poor thing .. cheer up babes mwah xxx

mjh3071 · Tue Apr 11, 2006 10:45 pm

Thanks Sarah, hope u realise what a lovely u are ;)