HayleyxAnn

EssexLad · Fri Apr 07, 2006 10:26 am Bit of advice

dont normally delve into much of me personal life :D

but got a bit of a problem....

few years a go.... had a really good friendship with a girl... and i mean like best mates... and the like.

she then got herself a bf .... and for the following year and half.,.. acted like i didnt exist...

now all of a sudden she is beginning to talk to me again... and the other mates of the group we used to hang around in.

she is telling me her bf hits her (which is in doubt)... and that she didnt talk to me could he would get jealous and moan at her.

but surely if she valued her friends she would rather have mates than a bf???

now they are still together.... and she asked me out for the day with them and a few other people.... and cause i said no ... she gave me the whole...

" nice to know who ya friends are."...

so what you reckon should i cut me losses... or any other ideas??

sorry for the long post :lol:

Nad · Fri Apr 07, 2006 11:29 am

End of day most people do it when they get with someone, they all say they wont ever do it again but the next time they are in a relationship the same thing happens.

If you did get on with her as much as u say then you would forgive and try to be mates again, of course if she keeps doing it u may cut your losses.

But for me if my best mate did that 100 times id still be his mate afterwards - thats what friends are for after all.

Graz · Fri Apr 07, 2006 12:25 pm

I think that people can, and do change, and drift apart, I have that with a very good friend of mine now, I don't know him much any more coz he is away at uni.

I think you should be there for her and still keep in contact, but live your own life mate, not worry about her's. She made no effort with you before after all.

HayleyxAnn · Fri Apr 07, 2006 1:05 pm

People do change when they have a partner...it's just the way it goes!

But when they realise it ain't alll soppy hearts and flowers they revert back to their friends because they need them again.

My friend recently split with her bf, we hardly heard from her whilst she was with him but they split up and she felt she had no one. But she's still my friend and I was there for her.

I think you should be there for her too, it's just a common thing, people get engrossed in their bf/gf for some time. But you have to find out if the hitting part is true, it may be trying to seek attention from you or it maybe true.

EssexLad · Fri Apr 07, 2006 2:26 pm

thats the thing... i mean we are all young adults... shouldnt be bothered with serious relationships and staying with guys that hit you if your a girl/ or a gf that hits you if ya a guy.

i cant stand guys that hit women or people that bully people that are younger than you.

so if i see her bf do it .. i will go mental.

however shes got my number and my msn addy i suppose...

mm... i can see what you mean with the engrossed in the bf/ gf but still should have time for ya mates right?

see girls are complicated... guys never have this trouble when its between two blokes :lol:

thanks guys ...

i dont think il do anything yet... in terms of saying i cant be bothered with you any more... just talk to her probably :lol:

cheers :D

HayleyxAnn · Fri Apr 07, 2006 2:35 pm

Good luck ;)

Andy306 · Fri Apr 07, 2006 4:40 pm

just dont get too involved... sounds like attention seeking

Amber · Sun Apr 09, 2006 5:37 pm

yeah, just talk with her when she needs you the most! and that will show her she still has someone that cares for her!

And i agree what haley said!

well i think girls are more complicated cause we expect more than what a man wants in a relationship!

but yeah good luck with it! and just be their for her! ;)

xx

Sweetie · Sun Apr 09, 2006 6:46 pm

Some great advice already given.

I agree we all drift apart when a boy or girl comes into our lives and forget about our friends ... we just have to forgive them and catch up on all the gossip :P

Good Luck sweetie be a good friend to her and dont get too involved :P